Journal 1/9/11 part 3
Counseling and the 5 levels of communication. A counselor changed my understanding of people and myself when he explained those levels.
No wonder I didn’t have what I called really good friends. Not many wanted to dig in with me or wander dark shores. It was about sharing good times more than bad.
Our minds get so accustomed to seeing things as our local culture (family, friends) would see. We don’t dare step into new territory. We don’t dare to feel things that others would not understand.
They are there no matter if understood.
If we ignore…they turn sour.
If we adjust to them…we get deformed.
The problems or dark periods start to reshape us in a way that is not true to who God made us. We find – maybe I should say I found I was letting my life be shaped by my culture. Seeking acceptance in it and feeling I needed to go with the flow and not muddy the waters.
I found how wrong that really is.
Wasted years. Yes.
Missed life. Sure.
BUT God used it for wonderful things. He showed that His mercy and guidance are there when we are ready. When I was ready.
I KNOW HE brought me out from the pit.
I KNOW HE gave me new life.
I KNOW HE shows me the way to go.
I KNOW HE guarantees HE is with me through all things.
That even in darkness, doubt, confusion, or loneliness HE holds me close.
When the darkness surrounds us…His Light can shine through. Otherwise we don’t always notice He is there.